Eliminate the Negatives

There is a dialogue that takes place inside of us, and in all likelihood has gone on for much of our lives. I say dialogue and not monologue, because we respond to it; we have discourse with it; we have given it authority over us.

Sadly, and all too often, we tells ourselves not how great we are, but how we fall short.We actually convince ourselves that we are not capable of rising to greatness.

It is a mythical voice, unreal, like the stories it makes up about us. For me, the voice insisted that I do not have the reserves of patience, empathy and stamina to being a loving, kind and healthy caregiver. What does your voice tell you?

We consign ourselves to these declarations, that this is the truth and we must sculpt ourselves to it.

    We

  • identify with the negativity within us, which is a costly crime.
  • Eliminate the possibility of expansive joy.
  • Drown our dreams of a fulfilling future.
  • Fail to connect with the sacredness of life and trade it all in for a life of mediocrity.

For us caregivers that’s just surviving when we have the opportunity to thrive.

We ice the cake of our negativity with the daily musings of television, newspapers and conversations with people who have traded in the optimism of a life consciously lived for the prevalent hum of fear and cynicism that seems to have taken root all around us.

A person has only to switch on a television to witness every inhumane act possible on television shows that appeal to our basest instincts.

According to the A.C. Nielsen Co., the average American watches more than 4 hours of TV each day (or 28 hours/week, or 2 months of nonstop TV-watching per year).

In a 65-year life, that person will have spent 9 years in front of a television!
Does it really take a scientific study to conclude that 9 years of television over the course of lifetime is not time well spent?

What might be the outcome, not just as an individual, but also on an entire society, if those 4 hours per day were spent on self-improvement?

We have forgotten, that life is so much bigger than the wholesale traders in fear and sensationalism would have us believe. We live in a culture where too much agreement is given to the sensational, the negative, the fearful, that to an extent, we must begin to see ourselves in a completely new light, and choose to not participate in lower vibrational thinking.

ELIMINATING THE NEGATIVES MEANS TO CREATE DISTINCTIONS FOR OURSELVES
AS TO WHAT WE CHOOSE TO INVOLVE OURSELVES IN,
OR WITH WHOM FOR THAT MATTER!

Lets not forget that life, at its core, is about love, nature, beauty, art and music! We are intelligent, creative, wise, compassionate, loving and imaginative beings!

As caregivers, it becomes incumbent upon us to put
blinders on to all which does not serve us!

Our greatest resolve must be to stand strong and vigilant at the gates of our own consciousness, unwilling to let anything pass through that seeks to undermine our resolve!

Taking care of someone with Alzheimer’s puts an enormous strain on our body, mind and soul, that the only choice that makes any sense is, to immerse ourselves into the 9 Strategies which will serve to strengthen our ability to emerge whole and healthy!

ONE EVENING, AN ELDERLY CHEROKEE BRAVE TOLD HIS GRANDSON ABOUT A BATTLE THAT GOES ON INSIDE PEOPLE. HE SAID “MY SON, THE BATTLE IS BETWEEN TWO WOLVES INSIDE US ALL. ONE IS EVIL. IT IS ANGER, ENVY, JEALOUSY, SORROW, REGRET, GREED, ARROGANCE, SELF-PITY, GUILT, RESENTMENT, INFERIORITY, LIES, FALSE PRIDE, SUPERIORITY AND EGO. THE OTHER IS GOOD. IT IS JOY, PEACE, LOVE, HOPE, SERENITY, HUMILITY, KINDNESS, BENEVOLENCE, EMPATHY, GENEROSITY, TRUTH, COMPASSION AND FAITH.” THE GRANDSON THOUGHT ABOUT IT FOR A MINUTE AND THEN ASKED HIS GRANDFATHER: “WHICH WOLF WINS?” THE OLD CHEROKEE SIMPLY REPLIED, “THE ONE THAT YOU FEED”.

I say, as caregivers, we are already leaning into the sharp edges of life. We have before us an opportunity to forge a life of compassion, patience, wisdom, courage and love! If we simply feed the virtues that nurture the best within us, we can move through this experience profoundly healthier for it.

 

 

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